What young women accept as normal today is devastating.
I wouldn’t say this is any kind of realisation as such, as the fact stated above is obvious in hundreds of different ways, and I could give thousands of examples that back it up, but what really hit me the other day – was just how serious the affect of this has.
Every girl is the key holder to what happens around her, and there is absolutely no way abuse could occur if we did not allow it, and for some they may even want it. After all, you couldn’t ask for stronger evidence to prove you are not worth love.
Recently I attended a presentation, and something was said that really struck a chord for me, it was the idea that many people around the world believe that abuse is in no way acceptable, but put up four walls around them and it’s perfectly fine to yell, hit, scream and do things they would NEVER do in public, because – well, the walls make ‘all the difference’.
Before you start thinking that this is a story about domestic abuse, or even a confession – it isn’t, but that cannot be completely dismissed, as I certainly have been the perpetrator of abuse, but in what is seen so ‘normal’ as society that you wouldn’t actually believe it is called that.
I was recently reading an article on the Guardian Newspaper about how emotional problems in British School girls aged 11 to 13 has increased by 55% between 2009 and 2014. Although I go to school and witness this in action almost every day, the statistic still shocked me.
I thought about what the cause could be for this; in the article the writer connects this problem to social media, and body dissatisfaction. In my opinion the greater reason is young girls’ expectations of themselves, which THEN affects how they feel towards their bodies, lives, families, and friends.
I agree that social media plays a huge part in this. I mean the amount of photos shared by girls that are #hairgoals, #bodygoals, #relationshipgoals, #bestfriendgoals is slightly insane. Although in the past I’ve certainly never seen it as a very big deal, I realise just how much girls look outside of themselves and compare to other people. They are constantly seeing photos of other girls, and seeing what they have as ‘better’ – as their goal.
All of the blogs on From Our Eyes have been written by young people. They are about the kind of issues and problems teenagers face on a constant basis, as well as worldwide epidemics that not only youth, but EVERYONE experiences day to day.