1. Having sex under the age of 16 with someone older is ILLEGAL
2. Your bodies are simply not ready at that age; there are dangers
Teachers can make pretty persuasive arguments from time to time, and this is a topic they can be very strong about. So why are the rates of underage sex still so high? They tick all the boxes at school in regards to educating us on the dangers and laws, so could it be there is something else at play here?
I was sitting in a lesson the other day, and overheard a conversation between two girls sat next to me. They were talking about one of their friends (who is quite widely known in our school), and how she had Facebook messaged them with pictures of her body – covered in all the bruises and bumps she had received from her boyfriend. They were exclaiming how during arguments he would kick her off the bed, hit her and yell, and how it got to the point where the girl couldn’t take it any longer and ended it. But, recently they had gotten back together, and their friend kept telling them she was ‘as happy as she’d ever been’. I happen to be friends with the girl on Facebook – and almost every picture she posts is of her and her boyfriend together; holding hands, kissing, close – the photos all suggest that the relationship she has is a loving one… Yet behind the scenes this is not the case. And this is certainly not the first time I’ve heard this kind of thing.
The conversation these two girls had stayed in my mind the entire day, and I thought about all of the small, little, hidden acts of abuse I see on a day to day basis that are accepted as the norm. Things like:
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From a very young age, boys and girls like to tease each other that they are a part of the ‘better gender’. Things like - ‘Girls are smarter’, ‘No! Boys are smarter, and we’re stronger too’, are yelled across the playground even in first school, and as we get older the arguments can become laced with something else – a desire to prove that we are superior. But where does this desire come from? And why is it that we are so busy focusing on ourselves, our own gender, and seeing everyone else as ‘less’ that we forget we are all in fact young people going through similar pressures and problems.
I’ll give an example – the media plays a huge part in every teenagers life, and I know that girls (like me) undergo a lot of pressure to be skinny, look glamorous, keep up with the latest trends and know what’s ‘hip’ and what’s not. Until quite recently I believed that girls had a MUCH tougher time than boys did – male models are almost never super skinny, certainly not borderline anorexic like some female models you see on the catwalk, but never did I stop to actually take a good look at how men are portrayed by the media. In my mind girls were the victims, we were the ones that had it hard, not boys.
All of the blogs on From Our Eyes have been written by young people. They are about the kind of issues and problems teenagers face on a constant basis, as well as worldwide epidemics that not only youth, but EVERYONE experiences day to day.